It seems a bit restrictive to look for a reference only "in the literature on Apéry numbers". I found a reference in the much larger literature on hypergeometric functions. In terms of Pochhammer symbols
$$(a)_k=a(a+1)\dotsm(a+k-1),$$
the identity $a_n=b_n$ takes the form
$$\sum_{i,j=0}^n\frac{(1)_{i+j}(-n)_i(-n)_i(-n)_j(-n)_j}{(1)_i(1)_ii!(1)_j(1)_jj!}=\sum_{k=0}^n\frac{(-n)_k(-n)_k(n+1)_k(n+1)_k}{(1)_k(1)_k(1)_kk!}$$
or in hypergeometric notation
$$F^{1:2}_{0:2}\left(\begin{matrix}1&:&-n,-n&;&-n,-n\\ &:&1,1&;&1,1\end{matrix};1,1\right)={}_4F_3\left(\begin{matrix}-n,-n,n+1,n+1\\1,1,1\end{matrix};1\right).$$
Reversing the summation on the right-hand side gives the alternative version
$$F^{1:2}_{0:2}\left(\begin{matrix}1&:&-n,-n&;&-n,-n\\ &:&1,1&;&1,1\end{matrix};1,1\right)=\binom{2n}n^2{}_4F_3\left(\begin{matrix}-n,-n,-n,-n\\1,-2n,-2n\end{matrix};1\right).$$
This can be recognized as the special case $a=a'=b'=-n$, $c=c'=e=1$ of the transformation formula
$$F^{1:2}_{0:2}\left(\begin{matrix}e&:&a,-n&;&a',b'\\ &:&c,e&;&c',e\end{matrix};1,1\right)=\frac{(c-a)_n\Gamma(c')\Gamma(c'-a'-b')}{(c)_n\Gamma(c'-a')\Gamma(c'-b')}{}_4F_3\left(\begin{matrix}-n,a,a',b'\\e,1+a-c-n,1+a'-c'+b'\end{matrix};1\right)$$
given as equation (22) in J. Van der Jeugt, S. N. Pitre and K. Srinivasa Rao,
Transformation and summation formulas for double hypergeometric series,
J. Comput. Appl. Math. 83 (1997), 185–193.
Alternatively, one can reverse the summation on both sides, so that the left-hand side becomes a series of the form $F^{0:3}_{1:1}$. Then, the identity $a_n=b_n$ follows from equation (5) in P. W. Karlsson, Two hypergeometric summation formulae related to 9-j coefficients,
J. Phys. A 27 (1994), 6943–6945.
Both papers mentioned are motivated by $9j$-symbols of quantum mechanics. This is not a coincidence. As discussed in R. Askey and J. A. Wilson,
A recurrence relation generalizing those of Apéry,
J. Austral. Math. Soc. Ser. A 36 (1984), 267–278, the recursions used by Apéry in his proof of the irrationality of $\zeta(3)$ are special cases of the recursions for Wilson polynomials, which appear as $6j$-symbols of the group $\mathrm{SU}(1,1)$. That is, Apéry numbers are $6j$-symbols. The more general $9j$-symbols are given by hypergeometric triple sums, which reduce to double sums like $F^{1:2}_{0:2}$ in special cases. Transformations like the one you ask about appear from even more special situations when the $9j$-symbol in fact equals a $6j$-symbol.